How To Build Emotional Resilience – The Benefits Of Meditation & EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
When it comes to a person’s ability to deal with stressful situations or personal crises, learning how to build emotional resilience is key to adapting to the problems that arise and managing them in a healthy way.
It has been shown that people with a higher degree and understanding of emotional resilience will be able to cope with the stresses that come with their daily life in a much more effective and calmer way and navigate their way through their crises more easily.
The good news is that building emotional resilience is a skill that can be learned and developed into a valuable coping tool. It can become an essential trait that you can benefit from for many reasons, most importantly for the fact that it can transform your life and your experience in coping with many types of personal stress that come into your daily life.
Emotional resilience is, to some extent, something you are actually born with. The beginning years of your life are invaluable. Your brain is still very much developing so everything that happens to you – relationship with parents, brothers and sisters, school, life events – all of these memories (unless made sense of at the time) form a blueprint for the rest of your life.
They create your core beliefs and shape how you view yourself, the world around you and how you fit into that world. Some will be positive but the more dangerous ones are the beliefs that are negative.
How negative beliefs can affect how to build emotional resilience
Unfortunately, It’s these negative beliefs that will shout louder and stronger during times when we’re not in a good place. These types of feelings and thoughtful responses are what causes our emotional resilience to wain and make it difficult to “overcome life’s setbacks.”
Self-worth, low self-esteem, guilt, shame, I’m not good enough, I must not be heard, I’m stupid, I’m not confident…This negative chatter can ‘speak’ so loudly in our minds that we begin to believe them as truths. These actual facts mean we will forever be that way and block your ability to help you build emotional resilience.
If your brain can’t make sense of a memory created at the time the event happens it will live on in your subconscious. For example – say you fell off your bike when you were little and at the time your mum scooped you up and said ‘you’re fine, you’re fine’. If at the time you actually thought you were going to die, this could live on in your mind as a fear of cycling, or worse, a fear of death. Your brain wasn’t given the opportunity to process the strong fear you felt at the time.
This is why meditation and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) are such powerful tools for children in developing a positive and healthy way on how to build emotional resilience. They help their minds make sense of their emotions when their brains and vocabulary are still very much developing
For adults, EFT enables your brain to get to the core route of a problem and allows you to take the emotional and negative charge away from past events that have had a negative impact on your mind and behaviour – anxiety, panic attacks & depression, bereavement and grief, OCD, eating disorders, substance abuse and addiction – you weren’t born with these and they don’t define who you are at your core.
The Benefits Of Meditation and using EFT to think differently
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The good news is your brain is hard-wired, not soft-wired, so you can change your neural pathways to think differently. In the same way, you work out to improve your physical fitness, you need to train your mind to improve your mental fitness and emotional resilience enabling you to help build your emotional resilience and process your emotions before they become overwhelming.
According to The Energy Therapy Center, “In the short time since its inception by Gary Craig in the 1990s, EFT has provided thousands of people with the tools on how to build emotional resilience and deal with relief from all manner of problems and conditions, often in startlingly quick time and after long and painful periods of searching for a cure.
The diversity of successful treatments have ranged from trauma and abuse, phobias, self-sabotaging behaviour patterns, to deep set emotional conditions of anxiety and depression, substance abuse and addiction, chronic pain and illness, to name but a few.”
We can’t predict what life might throw at us but we can regulate how we react and grow from each situation. You control your emotions and you control your happiness.
Learning how to build Emotional resilience and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) can help you with your journey along that path.
Happy Heads – Bespoke emotional resilience programmes built around you
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Therapist Kim Murray is a qualified Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) practitioner who runs ‘Happy Heads’, a London based mindfulness service offering bespoke programmes on how to build emotional resilience for adults, children and families.
She teaches simple, practical and effective tools to help both adults, children, parents and the family unit.
Kim’s philosophy is “Teaching simple mindful tools help empower the next generation and their families to live a happier, calmer & stress-free life.”
She says about her methods, “In the same way that fitness boosts our physical self, meditation and mindful exercises help us to look after our mental well-being. Research shows that meditation engages our brain’s Prefrontal Cortex, known to drive emotional decision making and self-regulation.”
“Taking the time to stop, think and breathe unlocks newfound skills that can be used every day to calm and ground us during the tricky moments life throws at you.”
Each course is as unique as the individual. One to one sessions are advised to begin, but Happy Heads works well with groups.
For more information about Kim Murray and Happy Heads check out her website at www.happyheads.me – Or email her at [email protected].